Precious Success

eagleOur Desire

The desire to improve is embedded in most of us.  It is kind of a DNA thing.  By now most of us realize we are not ever going to be perfect, we are not seeking perfection but rather ways to live and express ourselves in a higher way, to achieve the things that are personally important to us.

Success is personal.  It means different things to different people.  To some earning a 6 figure salary denotes success; while for others improving and mending relationships is the definition of success.

What has caught my attention today is the idea that success does not always bring growth; but that personal growth will always add to our our success.  That it is not what I get from success, but what I am becoming by it.

By not asking “what’s in for me” but rather “what am I becoming” through this experience, career, relationship etc; I can shift my perspective into a bigger picture.

Dis-ease

Destination dis-ease and quick fixes have colored our idea of success.  Improvement does not come through quick fixes.  Our fast world of technology bombards us daily with the newest, fastest and most painless ways to attain just about anything.  In fact though, improvement/success is an ongoing process.  There is no secret to success…only perseverance and disciplined intent.

On Going Process

“There is an eagle in me that wants to soar and a hippopotamus in me that wants to wallow in the mud” ~ Carl Sandburg

Yes, there are days that we want and sometimes need to wallow for a bit.  There are often gems to be found in that mud.  The trick is to choose soaring more often then wallowing.  The wallowing is us getting comfortable; wanting to stay in the place we know.  Soaring is stepping out; taking a chance, risking failure.  If we want to grow; this is necessary…just ask any baby bird.

Today make a promise to yourself.  Commit to daily steps towards improvement, not perfection.  Small steps bring rewards.

“If you study a subject every day for 1 hour, 5 days a week, in five years you will be an expert in that area.” ~ Earl Nightingale

2 Important Words

Intention and Contemplation….two important words that will help you to move towards your definition of personal success.

Every morning start your day by asking yourself what your intention is.  This simple exercise signals a commitment to yourself and is a good touchstone to return to throughout the day.

If you are serious about personal success and improvement; time alone is non-negotiable.  Alone time will give you the space and perspective you need to evaluate, gain perspective, to hear yourself.

You are Worth It

Today you can decide to:

  • believe you are worth improving.  If you need to examine your beliefs about worthiness there are many resources available for you, or work with a trusted friend, counselor or coach.
  • pick one area to focus on.  Don’t overwhelm yourself with too many areas of learning.
  • remind yourself that you are a work in progress.  You don’t need to be perfect or to have all the answers or learn everything in one day.

 

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You Can’t Always Get What You Want

touchyou can’t always get what you want
But if you try sometimes you just might find
You get what you need

~Rolling Stones~

Nope, you can’t always get what you want…or even what you think you want.  Sad isn’t it?  Or is it?

When something I had been working towards with all my heart didn’t work out the way I’d hoped….it smart. It was/is hard to take, to accept, to swallow.  My pride was hurt, I went down a notch or two (or three) in my mind, my confidence waned.  The problem with not getting what I wanted, (or failing) is that I have not really spent anytime learning how to deal with it.  Yes I have read articles, blogs and books about the “art of failure” but it doesn’t really sink in until, like most things in life, you actually experience it yourself.  I was left speechless, dumbfounded, kind of stunned when I found myself staring into the face of failure.

It can take a long time to come back from a failure.  A person can spend days, weeks, months or even years going round and round in their mind….trying to figure out what  could have been done or not done to prevent this failure.

Is this time well spent?  Missing out on the life that is actually taking place in the present moment because we are caught up in the past, trying to figure out the one thing that will make us feel better, a rationalization or justification that would allow us to put the failure to bed so we can move on?  “If onlys” are a waste of time and energy, a better way is “yes, OK, now what?”

Learning how to accept what I think has failed is the newest teacher in my life.  As I review what has come to replace the failure I realize I have actually been given what I really need; acceptance, a sense of ease, a new trust in Life, a deeper understanding of myself.

I can now look with new eyes at something that I didn’t get, something I wanted, and see more.  I can learn from my experience, be gentler with myself and see that what was then, was then.  And I can trust that something new is coming.

 

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In the Center

glory

Cleansed and unencumbered

I release the worries and insecurities of yesterday

Reminders in the silence of a truth I know

What wants to be known can only be heard in the silence i invite

Space

I remember that the solitude and silence that i avoid holds

all the treasure I seek

The still, small voice waiting for me to hear

the wise and comforting assurance of Love and the Reality of what Is

~Tucker~

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